Gary Francis Rupert passed away on Thursday, July 13th, 2023 following a courageous battle with cancer. Gary was born in New York, NY, on March 2nd, 1954 to Elizabeth & Joseph Rupert. Gary attended New Hyde Park Memorial High School and graduated in 1971. Following graduation, Gary attended Hofstra University and then went on to work at Bankers Trust where he met his wife-to-be Shirley Mayer.

Shirley & Gary were married in August 1975. She and Gary raised three children, adopting Matthew from Bogota, Colombia in 1984, followed by Carol, also from Bogota in 1987, with Christopher born in 1990. Even though Shirley and Gary divorced in 1995, they remained close friends up until her passing in 2021 & were the most dedicated and loving parents to their three children.

Gary remarried Katherine Donovan in 1996. Katy and Gary had three children, Sara in 1997, Jennifer in 1999, and John in 2002 while living in Mahwah, and later Bedminster, New Jersey.

Gary worked in many roles throughout his career in finance, working 21 years with Merrill Lynch as CEO and Managing Director of Portfolio Services. He later worked and served as CEO for Metropolitan West Securities, Wachovia Global Securities Lending, and Scotia Capital (USA); most recently working with the Royal Bank of Canada Security Lending and Wealth Management Division.

In addition to a successful career in securities lending, Gary had passions in farming, woodworking, community engagement, decorating for Christmas, a good practical joke, and being a loving and dedicated father to his six children and numerous dogs. Gary also ran Three Meadows Farm in Bedminster, New Jersey, and was instrumental in helping that farm become a center for children with autism under the new ownership of the Somerset Hills Learning Institute. He continued to serve this cause as a member of the board of directors for the farm and institute.

Above all, Gary most enjoyed gathering with his friends and family, spending time together over his home-cooked meals, surrounded by laughter & multitudes of Christmas trees.

Gary met his current wife Irene Caposello when they were friends and colleagues at Merrill Lynch. Gary & Irene married in 2018 and lived in Holmdel, New Jersey with Irene’s two children, James and Simon.

Gary is survived by his wife Irene, his six children, Matthew, Carol, Christopher, Sara, Jennifer, & John, his two stepchildren James & Simon, his siblings Bette Moore & Joseph Rupert, and numerous extended family. He was predeceased by his father Joseph, mother Elizabeth, brother John, & first-wife Shirley.

Viewings will be held on Monday & Tuesday, July 17th & 18th, 2023, 4:00 – 8:00 PM, at the Holmdel Funeral Home, 26 S Holmdel Rd, Holmdel, NJ. Gary’s funeral service will be on Wednesday, July 19th, 2023, at 10:00 AM, at Saint Benedict Church, 165 Bethany Rd. Holmdel, NJ. Burial will follow at Our Lady of Czestochowa Cemetery in Doylestown, PA.

In lieu of flowers, the family requests donations be made to the Make More Music Foundation. This non-profit, founded by Matthew, Carol, & Christopher Rupert, in honor of their parents, uplifts and educates the next generation of young musicians through scholarships for music lessons, free community concert programs, & instrument donations and placements. Donations can be made at makemoremusic.org.