Jane Costello, 83 years young at heart, passed away at home in Hazlet on Saturday, January 26th. She will be deeply missed by her husband, four children, five grandchildren and her faithful companion (from 7 pm to 7:30 pm every weeknight) Alex Trebek. Jane was born, raised and educated in Brooklyn (don’t forget it). She …
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Jane Costello, 83 years young at heart, passed away at home in Hazlet on Saturday, January 26th. She will be deeply missed by her husband, four children, five grandchildren and her faithful companion (from 7 pm to 7:30 pm every weeknight) Alex Trebek.
Jane was born, raised and educated in Brooklyn (don’t forget it). She got straight A’s in school (as she was fond of reminding her kids). In 1974, she moved to Hazlet, where the door was always open to family and friends (mostly because someone always forgot to lock it). She secretly enjoyed being the sanest member of a large extended family while at the same time reveling in the zaniness. The gatherings at her home were considered a success if at least one person laughed so hard they almost peed their pants.
After raising her kids, Jane graduated from Brookdale Community College with an AA degree and worked as an Administrative Assistant with American Express. She was a communicant at Holy Family RC. In her free time, she held several positions at the Matawan Women’s Club and participated in a senior walking club, which truth be told, should probably have been called a talking club. The craft fairs and flea markets of the region will be poorer for her passing. Jane was an avid reader and would have been a Pokeno world champion if she could ever find anyone to play with. She loved Scrabble, crossword puzzles and mahjong. But mostly she loved her family, who loved her just as much.
She is survived by her husband of 60 years, Joseph K.; her children Cathy & Brian O’Toole, Aberdeen; Thomas & Rose Costello, Hackettstown; Timothy Costello, Hazlet; and Eileen & Dan Obermann, Middletown; her sister Elizabeth Long, Tempe, AZ; and the grandchildren of whom she was so proud: Kasey O’Toole, Billy O’Toole, Luke Costello, Matthew Obermann and Kelly Obermann.
Visitation will be Tuesday, January 29th, 2-4 & 7-9 pm at the Holmdel Funeral Home, 26 South Holmdel Road, Holmdel. Mass of Christian burial Wednesday, January 30th at 11:00 am at Holy Family RC Church, 727 Highway 36, Union Beach. Burial at Fairview Cemetery, Middletown. For messages of condolence (and to share funny memories), please visit Jane’s page of tributes at www.holmdelfuneralhome.com.
In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation in Jane's name to the Hazlet Public Library, 251 Middle Road, Hazlet, NJ 07730, for a book.
Rich Witkowski
left a message on January 29, 2019:
I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers.
Nora McCue Connaughton
left a message on January 29, 2019:
I consider myself fortunate to have spent time with Jane, Her life is the definition of a life well lived. We can all learn the lesson she taught of making the most of each day.
Jose Morales
left a message on January 29, 2019:
Sorry to hear about the lost of your Mom. She is with God now resting peacefully.
John DeVirgilio
left a message on January 29, 2019:
I have never met a funnier and kinder individual in my life. She always treated me and the rest of Tommy's friends like family and that included busting our chops as much as she did her own children. She was awesome. God bless you Mrs. Cos.
A.S
left a message on January 27, 2019:
What a pity we have to go through all this suffering. I cannot even imagine the pain of what you are going through. In at time like these only God could give us the strength and comfort we need, in 2 Corinthians 1:3 says that the God and father of our lord Jesus Christ, the father of tender mercies and God of comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulations. I hope Jehovah God gives you the comfort you need and help you with all your pain. Sorry for your loss.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Michele and Ed Carrano
left a message on January 27, 2019:
We are so sad to hear about the passing of your mom. She was always full of laughter, energy, and great stories. We hope that you all can hold those memories and each other close through this difficult time.
Our deepest condolences
JIll Welch
left a message on January 27, 2019:
My fondest memory of Jane is her smile. She was always smiling and laughing no matter what the situation, always making the time she spent with people fun and enjoyable. I used to love to watch her listen to her grandchildren so intently. It was obvious how much she loved and appreciated them. You are missed! Jane, the angels are laughing with you, and heaven is smiling bigger now that you are there.
Evelyn Marie Carew
left a message on January 27, 2019:
A candle was lit by Evelyn Marie Carew on 2019/01/27
The Fazio Family
left a message on January 27, 2019:
A candle was lit by The Fazio Family on 2019/01/27
Charlene Ruocco
left a message on January 26, 2019:
My deepest sympathies. May you find some comfort surrounded by the love of family and friends at this time.
Jamie Connor
left a message on January 26, 2019:
Dear Cousin Jane,
I just now learned of your passing. I did not see you for so many years but never forgot you and your family. A few days ago I was thinking about you and Skippy. I thought about long ago when I was a little boy visiting you, Skippy and my cousins. I always loved it whenever I got to go to your house and spend time with all of you. Some things that are so clear in my mind are going to the supermarket with you (Pathmark) and you opening up a huge bag of pretzels as you shopped and us eating them. I thought we were going to get in trouble and you laughed. I still remember that laugh so clearly even now.
Whenever Tracy and I visited you always took us to the Sweet Shop for candy. One memory in particular stands out in my mind always. You bringing me to the rec center to swim in the huge pool there. One afternoon I practiced all day swimming under water trying to swim entire length without coming up for air. That evening before it closed you brought me back when it was empty of pretty much all other swimmers. You stood on opposite side of the pool and encouraged me that I could do it. And I did it. I felt so proud when I came up on other side to you clapping and cheering. You made sure anyone present made a big deal of my accomplishment. Ever since then I always held that special memory close to my heart. Thank you for that.
Love,
Jamie
Georgie McLaughlin and Family
left a message on January 26, 2019:
Dear Cousin Jane,
May Our Lord forgive you your sins and shortcomings and bring you home.
I remember your smile, your hearty laugh, your kindness and your zany sense of humor. You and Skippy took me on a "trip" to upstate New York when I was a little boy, and I never forgot your concern for me, a wee poor lad in Brooklyn. You and Skip bought me a pennant in a shop on that day trip. It said "Florida, NY" and I put it up in my room in our railroad flat on Carlton Avenue where it stayed for years. Whenever I saw you over the years, I thought of that pennant on my wall.
Now, it has come time for us to part ways, but God willing, we will see each other again. On behalf of Annie, Tommy and Aine, I say "Slan anois agus go n-eiri an bothar leat!" "Goodbye, for now, and may the road ahead be kind to you!" (in Irish).
Georgie McLaughlin
Providence, Rhode Island
Our love to the entire family--Skippy, Cathy, Tommy, Eileen and Timmy, all the grandchildren, Brian, Rose and Dan and your wonderful sister, Betty. The prayers continue!
Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.
(Christina Rossetti)
Patty Connolly Riker
left a message on January 26, 2019:
Cathy,Brian & Family,So very sorry to hear of your Moms passing.She was a lil firecracker Cathy. Full of life,Love,and many many laughs! My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
Dawna ciardiello mangone
left a message on January 26, 2019:
With a deepest sympathy to the Costello family love thoughts and prayers are with you all.
theodore kupper
left a message on January 26, 2019:
God Bless Jane..sorry to hear of her passing..Prayers and thoughts to all of the Costello and O' Toole family...Love you all..
Dawna ciardiello mangone
left a message on January 26, 2019:
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Rich Witkowski
left a message on January 29, 2019:
I am so sorry for your loss. Thoughts and prayers.
Nora McCue Connaughton
left a message on January 29, 2019:
I consider myself fortunate to have spent time with Jane, Her life is the definition of a life well lived. We can all learn the lesson she taught of making the most of each day.
Jose Morales
left a message on January 29, 2019:
Sorry to hear about the lost of your Mom. She is with God now resting peacefully.
John DeVirgilio
left a message on January 29, 2019:
I have never met a funnier and kinder individual in my life. She always treated me and the rest of Tommy's friends like family and that included busting our chops as much as she did her own children. She was awesome. God bless you Mrs. Cos.
A.S
left a message on January 27, 2019:
What a pity we have to go through all this suffering. I cannot even imagine the pain of what you are going through. In at time like these only God could give us the strength and comfort we need, in 2 Corinthians 1:3 says that the God and father of our lord Jesus Christ, the father of tender mercies and God of comfort, who comforts us in all our tribulations. I hope Jehovah God gives you the comfort you need and help you with all your pain. Sorry for your loss.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Michele and Ed Carrano
left a message on January 27, 2019:
We are so sad to hear about the passing of your mom. She was always full of laughter, energy, and great stories. We hope that you all can hold those memories and each other close through this difficult time.
Our deepest condolences
JIll Welch
left a message on January 27, 2019:
My fondest memory of Jane is her smile. She was always smiling and laughing no matter what the situation, always making the time she spent with people fun and enjoyable. I used to love to watch her listen to her grandchildren so intently. It was obvious how much she loved and appreciated them. You are missed! Jane, the angels are laughing with you, and heaven is smiling bigger now that you are there.
Evelyn Marie Carew
left a message on January 27, 2019:
A candle was lit by Evelyn Marie Carew on 2019/01/27
The Fazio Family
left a message on January 27, 2019:
A candle was lit by The Fazio Family on 2019/01/27
Charlene Ruocco
left a message on January 26, 2019:
My deepest sympathies. May you find some comfort surrounded by the love of family and friends at this time.
Jamie Connor
left a message on January 26, 2019:
Dear Cousin Jane,
I just now learned of your passing. I did not see you for so many years but never forgot you and your family. A few days ago I was thinking about you and Skippy. I thought about long ago when I was a little boy visiting you, Skippy and my cousins. I always loved it whenever I got to go to your house and spend time with all of you. Some things that are so clear in my mind are going to the supermarket with you (Pathmark) and you opening up a huge bag of pretzels as you shopped and us eating them. I thought we were going to get in trouble and you laughed. I still remember that laugh so clearly even now.
Whenever Tracy and I visited you always took us to the Sweet Shop for candy. One memory in particular stands out in my mind always. You bringing me to the rec center to swim in the huge pool there. One afternoon I practiced all day swimming under water trying to swim entire length without coming up for air. That evening before it closed you brought me back when it was empty of pretty much all other swimmers. You stood on opposite side of the pool and encouraged me that I could do it. And I did it. I felt so proud when I came up on other side to you clapping and cheering. You made sure anyone present made a big deal of my accomplishment. Ever since then I always held that special memory close to my heart. Thank you for that.
Love,
Jamie
Georgie McLaughlin and Family
left a message on January 26, 2019:
Dear Cousin Jane,
May Our Lord forgive you your sins and shortcomings and bring you home.
I remember your smile, your hearty laugh, your kindness and your zany sense of humor. You and Skippy took me on a "trip" to upstate New York when I was a little boy, and I never forgot your concern for me, a wee poor lad in Brooklyn. You and Skip bought me a pennant in a shop on that day trip. It said "Florida, NY" and I put it up in my room in our railroad flat on Carlton Avenue where it stayed for years. Whenever I saw you over the years, I thought of that pennant on my wall.
Now, it has come time for us to part ways, but God willing, we will see each other again. On behalf of Annie, Tommy and Aine, I say "Slan anois agus go n-eiri an bothar leat!" "Goodbye, for now, and may the road ahead be kind to you!" (in Irish).
Georgie McLaughlin
Providence, Rhode Island
Our love to the entire family--Skippy, Cathy, Tommy, Eileen and Timmy, all the grandchildren, Brian, Rose and Dan and your wonderful sister, Betty. The prayers continue!
Remember me when I am gone away,
Gone far away into the silent land;
When you can no more hold me by the hand,
Nor I half turn to go yet turning stay.
Remember me when no more day by day
You tell me of our future that you plann'd:
Only remember me; you understand
It will be late to counsel then or pray.
Yet if you should forget me for a while
And afterwards remember, do not grieve:
For if the darkness and corruption leave
A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,
Better by far you should forget and smile
Than that you should remember and be sad.
(Christina Rossetti)
Patty Connolly Riker
left a message on January 26, 2019:
Cathy,Brian & Family,So very sorry to hear of your Moms passing.She was a lil firecracker Cathy. Full of life,Love,and many many laughs! My thoughts and prayers are with you and yours.
Dawna ciardiello mangone
left a message on January 26, 2019:
With a deepest sympathy to the Costello family love thoughts and prayers are with you all.
theodore kupper
left a message on January 26, 2019:
God Bless Jane..sorry to hear of her passing..Prayers and thoughts to all of the Costello and O' Toole family...Love you all..
Dawna ciardiello mangone
left a message on January 26, 2019:
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