Thomas Patrick Bilella, 56 of Holmdel died on Sunday, August 1. Thomas was born to Karla and Patrick Bilella in Point Pleasant on August 8, 1964. At the age of seven, he and his mother moved to Keyport where he was raised. He graduated from St. John Vianney High School as Vice President …
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Thomas Patrick Bilella, 56 of Holmdel died on Sunday, August 1.
Thomas was born to Karla and Patrick Bilella in Point Pleasant on August 8, 1964.
At the age of seven, he and his mother moved to Keyport where he was raised. He graduated from St. John Vianney High School as Vice President of his class, as well as runner up for best dressed, always important to him. He went on to Rutgers, then Bloomfield College of Chiropractic and eventually graduated with a Master’s degree from University of Bridgeport.
Thomas opened a chiropractic practice in the early 90s, and then Red Bank Nutrition Treatment Center. Known as the “Guru” he was very devoted to his clients. Often referred to as one of the top nutritionists in the country his life revolved around healthy eating and an active lifestyle, which helped him become Mr. New Jersey Naturally in 1995. His life was dedicated to helping many people take better care of their bodies, including the NY Jets and other NFL clients. He had a passion for socializing, golf, and speaking at charitable functions. A great dancer, he may be best known for the laughter and joy that he brought to so many. His greatest passion was spending time with family.
Thomas is predeceased by his father Patrick Bilella and is survived by his wife Mandi Bilella, their beloved daughter Sophia, his mother Karla LaVoie, and his step-children Alexa Crapanzano and Danny Crapanzano.
Visitation Tuesday, August 3 from 4pm – 8pm at the Holmdel Funeral Home, 26 S. Holmdel Road, Holmdel. A graveside service will be offered on Wednesday, August 4 at 11am at Holmdel Mausoleum. For messages of condolence, please visit Thomas’ page of tributes at www.holmdelfuneralhome.com.
Jane Kapushy McKeever
left a message on August 16, 2021:
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Tom. I knew him growing up in Keyport. He was a good friend of my sister. I will never forget his great sense of humor. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Anna Mayer
left a message on August 9, 2021:
I met Tom several times thru mutual friends in Red Bank and thought he was one of the most kind hearted, smart and dynamic individuals I knew. He was an acquired, competent and sought after chiropractor and nutritionist. He was a world of knowledge and shared it with many many people he knew - and especially those he loved and respected. Successful to the nth degree, I am saddened and shocked to read of his loss. My prayers to Mandi, his wife and Sophia his daughter and to his Mom, Karla for the healing of their broken hearts and the strength to move forward. Tom will always be with you - his love for you did not die - it is in your hearts forever etched. God Bless You, You made Tom "Happy on Earth", as He did You! That is the ultimate blessing! Anna Mayer
Maria Weatherspool
left a message on August 4, 2021:
My heart goes out to Tom’s family & friends. Dr Bilella was always one of my favorite Doctors / Chiropractor and Nutritionists! His large personality, humor and love for those he helped was special. May he Rest In Peace.
Mike Goode
left a message on August 4, 2021:
Tom helped me change my life, he was instrumental in helping me recover from a complete shoulder recovery in 2016, his encouragement and suggestions for supplementation made me overcome and my recovery was nothing short of amazing - he made it happen. You will never be forgotten.
To his family, may God bless you!
Scott Paltos
left a message on August 4, 2021:
Strength and love are sent from my family. Dr Tom, the Guru as so many of us refer to him as, was a great man. His smile, greeting and infectious laugh radiated in his office and wherever he roamed. Countless conversations and positive messages from him from year to year. I know how much his grace and being supported me. I can only imagine the other countless people he helped and touched.
In times of sadness there are always thoughts of good. To all those grieving I wish nothing but finding those smiles and good times. To have this man be remembered for all the good and change he created. That his power will still radiate within so many.
Love and prayers are sent to find that inner peace. Rest in Paradise my friend…Scott
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
David Holland
left a message on August 4, 2021:
Shock, Severe sympathy. We must talk when it is time. Too many strange happenings not to believe them . I can only tell U our lose of our 56 yr. old Denise last year. Over 1,100 E mails and this sets me back in my chair. WHY ? Let ur FAITH be the crutch at this time. At a loss for mere words. The deepest of sympathy. Dave
David Holland
left a message on August 4, 2021:
Shock, Severe sympathy. We must talk when it is time. Too many strange happenings not to believe them . I can only tell U our lose of our 56 yr. old Denise last year. Over 1,100 E mails and this sets me back in my chair. WHY ? Let ur FAITH be the crutch at this time. At a loss for mere words. The deepest of sympathy. Dave
Dave,Edie ,Shelly Holland
left a message on August 4, 2021:
We are so deeply sorry for your loss💔🙏
Bruce Stankiewicz Jr
left a message on August 4, 2021:
My sincerest condolences to the Bilella family. I was one of Dr. Tom's first chiropractic clients going back to his days in Sayreville and Matawan. And, although I haven't seen him in several years, he opened my eyes and put me on a true path of nutrition and fitness and his teachings and philosophies have remained with me to this day. RIP friend.
Julie Monica
left a message on August 4, 2021:
I am deeply saddened. Tom was “The” nutrition, pioneer touchstone that we, his colleagues, would clamor to hear speak. His presentations were dynamic, as anyone who knew him, would know. He was innovative in his approach to wellness especially by empowering patients to take charge of their health. -He taught us all a lot. He also gave his time in Trenton advocating for law changes effecting nutrition practices in NJ. He was passionate in all aspects of our profession. We are truly are missing one of our pillars. – RIP, Tom.
Annette DeMasi
left a message on August 3, 2021:
Rest in Peace Tom
Mike Gallagher
left a message on August 3, 2021:
I can't believe you are gone.. I've been trying to process this and understand why.. You helped me so much Dr. Tom and we just spoke on the phone about 2 weeks ago when I ordered stuff from you. I am going to miss calling the office and hearing your voice. I'm going to miss your words of encouragement through the app. The rest of my career in Health and Wellness will be dedicated to you and words cannot express my gratitude to have known you and thank you so much for everything you taught me. My sincerest condolences to your family and friends. Sending Love, Prayers, and Strength.
Mike Gallagher
Jennifer Siehl
left a message on August 3, 2021:
I am in complete shock & sadness . Dr. Tom helped me through some of my toughest medical challenges and life changes and got me back on the right track again . Always encouraging , always with a smile & a positive attitude . May your memory always be a blessing . Rest In Peace
Jennifer Siehl
left a message on August 3, 2021:
I am in complete shock & sadness . Dr. Tom helped me through some of my toughest medical challenges and life changes and got me back on the right track again . Always encouraging , always with a smile & a positive attitude . May your memory always be a blessing . Rest In Peace
Evelyn Guerriera
left a message on August 3, 2021:
We are deeply saddened by your loss. So grateful to know Tom and his good works. Always in our 💕hearts. Much love Michael and Evelyn Guerriera
Taffy Notarcola
left a message on August 3, 2021:
Tom, you were a True Lightworker during your time on this Earth! You touched so many lives with your knowledge , passion, kindness, and Love! You will forever be remembered thru Time and all Eternity! God Bless your family and especially your Mom, Karla. I send my deepest condolences and sympathies. " Never forget you give but to your Self. Who understands what giving means, must laugh at the idea of sacrifice " You gave it your all Tom , we are truly blessed to have known your unique humaness!!
Mark Ziolkowski
left a message on August 3, 2021:
When you have the impact that Tom had on our lives, he will never truly be gone. He will live forever in our hearts and memories. So many great times we had. I will always cherish those moments and I will celebrate your life, albeit with a heavy heart. My deepest condolences.
Mark “Ziol”
Eva Larkin
left a message on August 3, 2021:
Karla & family
I was completely shocked to read Tom’s obituary today. My sincere sympathy on the loss of your son & to all the family! Tom was a wonderful person & a great chiropractor who helped me so much. My prayers are with you during these times.
Eva Larkin
Greg Carter
left a message on August 3, 2021:
I express my deepest sympathies to Tom’s family, friends and colleagues. I had the pleasure of being one of Tom’s Legends Club members. His generosity and coaching made a tremendous difference in my life and the health and lives of my patients. I will be forever grateful.
Allessandra Imperato
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Rest In Peace Dr. Tom. You were the best nutritionist and kindest human being I’ve ever met. Driving down to Red Bank for my appointment with you always made my day. You are greatly missed my friend. My thoughts and prayers are with the Bilella family and everyone at NTC.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Maria Importico
left a message on August 2, 2021:
With deepest sympathy
Tom we love you
Praying for your family
Dr. John McHugh
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I am crestfallen. Tom was a great coach, mentor, advisor, and friend. He helped me tremendously with my 75 pound weight loss. I will miss his bright smile, and warm personality. Rest in peace, Dr. Tom. Thank you for all the lives that you touched.
Dr. John McHugh
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I am crestfallen. Tom was a great coach, mentor, advisor, and friend. He helped me tremendously with my 75 pound weight loss. I will miss his bright smile, and warm personality. Rest in peace, Dr. Tom. Thank you for all the lives that you touched.
Peter D
left a message on August 2, 2021:
My deepest condolences. I only worked with Dr. Tom briefly as a client but he made an impact in that time. I am grateful I was able to know him, even if only briefly.
Wayne Peiser
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Tom was a mentor to me. I will miss greatly.
Sorry of your loss.
Chelsea Desposito
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Dr. Tom spent his life helping others and did it with wit, compassion, and kindness. He will be so missed. He changed my life during a time I had no hope, I will always be grateful to have known him. Condolences to his family and loved ones.
Steve Cella
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Tom, you were the ultimate Legend. I will miss you and I will miss your guru ways and your motivational conversations.
Mandi & Sophia, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Rest In Peace Brother……….
Steve C
Chris Johnson
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I'm very sorry to hear of Dr. Tom's passing. My partner Evan and I were fortunate to work with him on some video and web projects back in the day, and his energy was so unique and memorable. He made everyone around him better. He will be missed. Love to his family, friends and colleagues.
Will Apicelli
left a message on August 2, 2021:
So sorry for your loss. Tom was a great guy. I met him in the eighties. He will surely be missed. God bless him.
Jason Witt
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Dr. Tom was filled with energy and passion but most importantly, kindness and consideration of others' wellbeing. He changed my life.
Joe Falco
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Always laughing, always smiling, …… that’s how I’ll always think of him. The loss of a good man. You’ll be missed my friend !!
Dr. Dean Insana
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I am very sorry for your loss.
Sean English, DC
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I'm very sorry to read of Tom's passing. I always enjoyed listening to his lectures. Tom & his family will be in my thoughts & prayers. God Bless you during this difficult time.
Patti Burch
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Tom was a great doctor and good man. I have fond memories of him professionally and personally. My sincere sympathies to Mandi and Sophia
Wendy Child
left a message on August 2, 2021:
The soul lives on. Many blessings for all the family. Tom's mom Karla has taught so many of us to see the light. Peace be with you.
Randy Rauscher
left a message on August 2, 2021:
'So sorry to hear about Tom's passing. Tom has been an inspiration around our house for many years. My sincere condolences to his family.
Kristin Gustafson Gentile
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I am devastated to hear of Tom’s passing. God Bless you all.
Dr Steven Clarke
left a message on August 2, 2021:
The entire chiropractic profession mourns the loss of Tom.
To his family and friends our sympathies during this difficult time.
RIchelle Pecora
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Sending my deepest condolences to Tom's loved ones. Tom was a spectacular human being who cared so deeply for everyone he met, mentored, or who trusted him with their care. I was blessed to have known him.
RIchelle Pecora
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Sending my deepest condolences to Tom's loved ones. Tom was a spectacular human being who cared so deeply for everyone he met, mentored, or who trusted him with their care. I was blessed to have known him.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
RIchelle Pecora
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Sending my deepest condolences to Tom's loved ones. Tom was a spectacular human being who cared so deeply for everyone he met, mentored, or who trusted him with their care. I was blessed to have known him.
left a message:
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Jane Kapushy McKeever
left a message on August 16, 2021:
I am so sorry to hear of the loss of Tom. I knew him growing up in Keyport. He was a good friend of my sister. I will never forget his great sense of humor. You are all in my thoughts and prayers.
Anna Mayer
left a message on August 9, 2021:
I met Tom several times thru mutual friends in Red Bank and thought he was one of the most kind hearted, smart and dynamic individuals I knew. He was an acquired, competent and sought after chiropractor and nutritionist. He was a world of knowledge and shared it with many many people he knew - and especially those he loved and respected. Successful to the nth degree, I am saddened and shocked to read of his loss. My prayers to Mandi, his wife and Sophia his daughter and to his Mom, Karla for the healing of their broken hearts and the strength to move forward. Tom will always be with you - his love for you did not die - it is in your hearts forever etched. God Bless You, You made Tom "Happy on Earth", as He did You! That is the ultimate blessing! Anna Mayer
Maria Weatherspool
left a message on August 4, 2021:
My heart goes out to Tom’s family & friends. Dr Bilella was always one of my favorite Doctors / Chiropractor and Nutritionists! His large personality, humor and love for those he helped was special. May he Rest In Peace.
Mike Goode
left a message on August 4, 2021:
Tom helped me change my life, he was instrumental in helping me recover from a complete shoulder recovery in 2016, his encouragement and suggestions for supplementation made me overcome and my recovery was nothing short of amazing - he made it happen. You will never be forgotten.
To his family, may God bless you!
Scott Paltos
left a message on August 4, 2021:
Strength and love are sent from my family. Dr Tom, the Guru as so many of us refer to him as, was a great man. His smile, greeting and infectious laugh radiated in his office and wherever he roamed. Countless conversations and positive messages from him from year to year. I know how much his grace and being supported me. I can only imagine the other countless people he helped and touched.
In times of sadness there are always thoughts of good. To all those grieving I wish nothing but finding those smiles and good times. To have this man be remembered for all the good and change he created. That his power will still radiate within so many.
Love and prayers are sent to find that inner peace. Rest in Paradise my friend…Scott
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
David Holland
left a message on August 4, 2021:
Shock, Severe sympathy. We must talk when it is time. Too many strange happenings not to believe them . I can only tell U our lose of our 56 yr. old Denise last year. Over 1,100 E mails and this sets me back in my chair. WHY ? Let ur FAITH be the crutch at this time. At a loss for mere words. The deepest of sympathy. Dave
David Holland
left a message on August 4, 2021:
Shock, Severe sympathy. We must talk when it is time. Too many strange happenings not to believe them . I can only tell U our lose of our 56 yr. old Denise last year. Over 1,100 E mails and this sets me back in my chair. WHY ? Let ur FAITH be the crutch at this time. At a loss for mere words. The deepest of sympathy. Dave
Dave,Edie ,Shelly Holland
left a message on August 4, 2021:
We are so deeply sorry for your loss💔🙏
Bruce Stankiewicz Jr
left a message on August 4, 2021:
My sincerest condolences to the Bilella family. I was one of Dr. Tom's first chiropractic clients going back to his days in Sayreville and Matawan. And, although I haven't seen him in several years, he opened my eyes and put me on a true path of nutrition and fitness and his teachings and philosophies have remained with me to this day. RIP friend.
Julie Monica
left a message on August 4, 2021:
I am deeply saddened. Tom was “The” nutrition, pioneer touchstone that we, his colleagues, would clamor to hear speak. His presentations were dynamic, as anyone who knew him, would know. He was innovative in his approach to wellness especially by empowering patients to take charge of their health. -He taught us all a lot. He also gave his time in Trenton advocating for law changes effecting nutrition practices in NJ. He was passionate in all aspects of our profession. We are truly are missing one of our pillars. – RIP, Tom.
Annette DeMasi
left a message on August 3, 2021:
Rest in Peace Tom
Mike Gallagher
left a message on August 3, 2021:
I can't believe you are gone.. I've been trying to process this and understand why.. You helped me so much Dr. Tom and we just spoke on the phone about 2 weeks ago when I ordered stuff from you. I am going to miss calling the office and hearing your voice. I'm going to miss your words of encouragement through the app. The rest of my career in Health and Wellness will be dedicated to you and words cannot express my gratitude to have known you and thank you so much for everything you taught me. My sincerest condolences to your family and friends. Sending Love, Prayers, and Strength.
Mike Gallagher
Jennifer Siehl
left a message on August 3, 2021:
I am in complete shock & sadness . Dr. Tom helped me through some of my toughest medical challenges and life changes and got me back on the right track again . Always encouraging , always with a smile & a positive attitude . May your memory always be a blessing . Rest In Peace
Jennifer Siehl
left a message on August 3, 2021:
I am in complete shock & sadness . Dr. Tom helped me through some of my toughest medical challenges and life changes and got me back on the right track again . Always encouraging , always with a smile & a positive attitude . May your memory always be a blessing . Rest In Peace
Evelyn Guerriera
left a message on August 3, 2021:
We are deeply saddened by your loss. So grateful to know Tom and his good works. Always in our 💕hearts. Much love Michael and Evelyn Guerriera
Taffy Notarcola
left a message on August 3, 2021:
Tom, you were a True Lightworker during your time on this Earth! You touched so many lives with your knowledge , passion, kindness, and Love! You will forever be remembered thru Time and all Eternity! God Bless your family and especially your Mom, Karla. I send my deepest condolences and sympathies. " Never forget you give but to your Self. Who understands what giving means, must laugh at the idea of sacrifice " You gave it your all Tom , we are truly blessed to have known your unique humaness!!
Mark Ziolkowski
left a message on August 3, 2021:
When you have the impact that Tom had on our lives, he will never truly be gone. He will live forever in our hearts and memories. So many great times we had. I will always cherish those moments and I will celebrate your life, albeit with a heavy heart. My deepest condolences.
Mark “Ziol”
Eva Larkin
left a message on August 3, 2021:
Karla & family
I was completely shocked to read Tom’s obituary today. My sincere sympathy on the loss of your son & to all the family! Tom was a wonderful person & a great chiropractor who helped me so much. My prayers are with you during these times.
Eva Larkin
Greg Carter
left a message on August 3, 2021:
I express my deepest sympathies to Tom’s family, friends and colleagues. I had the pleasure of being one of Tom’s Legends Club members. His generosity and coaching made a tremendous difference in my life and the health and lives of my patients. I will be forever grateful.
Allessandra Imperato
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Rest In Peace Dr. Tom. You were the best nutritionist and kindest human being I’ve ever met. Driving down to Red Bank for my appointment with you always made my day. You are greatly missed my friend. My thoughts and prayers are with the Bilella family and everyone at NTC.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Maria Importico
left a message on August 2, 2021:
With deepest sympathy
Tom we love you
Praying for your family
Dr. John McHugh
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I am crestfallen. Tom was a great coach, mentor, advisor, and friend. He helped me tremendously with my 75 pound weight loss. I will miss his bright smile, and warm personality. Rest in peace, Dr. Tom. Thank you for all the lives that you touched.
Dr. John McHugh
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I am crestfallen. Tom was a great coach, mentor, advisor, and friend. He helped me tremendously with my 75 pound weight loss. I will miss his bright smile, and warm personality. Rest in peace, Dr. Tom. Thank you for all the lives that you touched.
Peter D
left a message on August 2, 2021:
My deepest condolences. I only worked with Dr. Tom briefly as a client but he made an impact in that time. I am grateful I was able to know him, even if only briefly.
Wayne Peiser
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Tom was a mentor to me. I will miss greatly.
Sorry of your loss.
Chelsea Desposito
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Dr. Tom spent his life helping others and did it with wit, compassion, and kindness. He will be so missed. He changed my life during a time I had no hope, I will always be grateful to have known him. Condolences to his family and loved ones.
Steve Cella
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Tom, you were the ultimate Legend. I will miss you and I will miss your guru ways and your motivational conversations.
Mandi & Sophia, my thoughts and prayers are with you.
Rest In Peace Brother……….
Steve C
Chris Johnson
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I'm very sorry to hear of Dr. Tom's passing. My partner Evan and I were fortunate to work with him on some video and web projects back in the day, and his energy was so unique and memorable. He made everyone around him better. He will be missed. Love to his family, friends and colleagues.
Will Apicelli
left a message on August 2, 2021:
So sorry for your loss. Tom was a great guy. I met him in the eighties. He will surely be missed. God bless him.
Jason Witt
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Dr. Tom was filled with energy and passion but most importantly, kindness and consideration of others' wellbeing. He changed my life.
Joe Falco
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Always laughing, always smiling, …… that’s how I’ll always think of him. The loss of a good man. You’ll be missed my friend !!
Dr. Dean Insana
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I am very sorry for your loss.
Sean English, DC
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I'm very sorry to read of Tom's passing. I always enjoyed listening to his lectures. Tom & his family will be in my thoughts & prayers. God Bless you during this difficult time.
Patti Burch
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Tom was a great doctor and good man. I have fond memories of him professionally and personally. My sincere sympathies to Mandi and Sophia
Wendy Child
left a message on August 2, 2021:
The soul lives on. Many blessings for all the family. Tom's mom Karla has taught so many of us to see the light. Peace be with you.
Randy Rauscher
left a message on August 2, 2021:
'So sorry to hear about Tom's passing. Tom has been an inspiration around our house for many years. My sincere condolences to his family.
Kristin Gustafson Gentile
left a message on August 2, 2021:
I am devastated to hear of Tom’s passing. God Bless you all.
Dr Steven Clarke
left a message on August 2, 2021:
The entire chiropractic profession mourns the loss of Tom.
To his family and friends our sympathies during this difficult time.
RIchelle Pecora
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Sending my deepest condolences to Tom's loved ones. Tom was a spectacular human being who cared so deeply for everyone he met, mentored, or who trusted him with their care. I was blessed to have known him.
RIchelle Pecora
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Sending my deepest condolences to Tom's loved ones. Tom was a spectacular human being who cared so deeply for everyone he met, mentored, or who trusted him with their care. I was blessed to have known him.
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
RIchelle Pecora
left a message on August 2, 2021:
Sending my deepest condolences to Tom's loved ones. Tom was a spectacular human being who cared so deeply for everyone he met, mentored, or who trusted him with their care. I was blessed to have known him.
left a message:
Please accept our deepest condolences for your family's loss.
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