Mary Vivian Fu Wells passed away on October 5th, 2011. Born on September 3, 1925 (Lunar Calendar), her parents were John P. Fu and Shou Jin Zu. She was one of twelve children. Vivian came to the United States in 1948 to study at Catholic University of America. She earned her MSW with honors in …
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Mary Vivian Fu Wells passed away on October 5th, 2011. Born on September 3, 1925 (Lunar Calendar), her parents were John P. Fu and Shou Jin Zu. She was one of twelve children. Vivian came to the United States in 1948 to study at Catholic University of America. She earned her MSW with honors in 1950. She was a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and an Accredited Professional Mediator. Vivian had a practice devoted to family problems since 1971. She also taught at Rutgers, the State University. Vivian was Past President of the New Jersey Association of Professional Mediators. She served as President of Central District American Association for Marriage and Family Therapy. Vivian Wells was Trustee Emerita at Rutgers, the State University of New Jersey and served as Vice Chair of the Board of Trustees. She received the honor of 'Legend ADR' by the dispute resolution section of the N.J.State Bar Association for her leadership in the field of conflict resolution. Vivian Wells' husband, Robert C. Wells predeceased her in 2003. She is survived by her children, Catherine Twanmoh and her husband Jeffrey Charney of Lebanon, N.J. and Joseph Twanmoh, and his wife Valerie Hurley Twanmoh of Fallston, MD., and her grandchildren James Charney, Rebecca Charney, Kai Twanmoh, Darren Twanmoh, and Ross Twanmoh. Her first marriage to Thomas Twanmoh ended in divorce. Visitation will be held at the Holmdel Funeral Home, 26 South Holmdel Road, Holmdel on Sunday from 2:00 to 4:00PM and Monday from 9:30 to 11:00AM. A Mass of Christian Burial will be offered on Monday 11:30AM at St. Benedict R.C. Church 165 Bethany Road, Holmdel. In lieu of flowers, please send a donation in her memory to The Rutgers University Foundation, Mary Vivian Fu and Robert C. Wells Scholarship Fund, 7 College Avenue, Winant's Hall, New Brunswick, N.J. 08901
Blair Kamin
left a message on October 14, 2012:
Dear Cathy and Joe, I was so sad to hear the news about Vivian from Mom and Dad. Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss. Your mom was such a great lady. Her warmth, beauty, empathy, openness to others, and wit made her a joy to be around. She and Bob were quite a couple. So it was always a pleasure when our family would make the trek through the farm fields of northern Monmouth County and come to your house in Matawan. Those were very special days. I know how much Art and Ginny treasured Bob and Vivian’s friendship. It’s wonderful that their friendship lasted so many years and created such great memories. With love to both of you, Blair Kamin
Nancy Haddock
left a message on October 12, 2012:
Vivian was an inspiration and dear friend to all of us in Rotary for over 10 years. Her calm cool insights into human behavior were invaluable. Her warm smile and eternal optimism will be sorely missed.
Judy Zenowich
left a message on October 11, 2012:
To the family of Mary Vivian Fu Wells, We extend our deepest sympathies to you on the death of Vivian, our friend and colleague. She was a generous supporter of our MSW students and a thoughtful contributor to our programs as an educator and an expert in her field. You are in our thoughts and prayers. ...from the Dean, Faculty, and Staff of the Rutgers School of Social Work
Anahid and Mark Gregg
left a message on October 10, 2012:
We had the privilege of living on the same block as Vivian for several years. She was an incredible woman - intelligent, compassionate, insightful. It was always a pleasure to visit with her. She will be very missed by all who knew her. You have our deepest sympathy.
Lynne Myerson
left a message on October 10, 2012:
We will miss having your mother as our neighbor on June Place. She was a great woman. With sincere sympathy, Paul, Lynne, & Andrew Myerson
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Lee & Bob Crush
left a message on October 9, 2012:
Very sad to hear of the loss of your mother, Joe and hope all your family will always cherish special memories of her. She was quite a remarkable and accomplished woman and we know you all were very proud of her. Again, our condolences and hoping time will ease your pain but know your love will keep her in your heart always.
ginny & arthur kamin
left a message on October 9, 2012:
dear cathy, jeff, joe, val and grandchildren, for 45 years we were honored to be close friends of elegant, intelligent, charming vivian. she enriched our lives so very much. she was always there for us and one could never ask for a more wonderful friend. being with her and bob was always a joy. we will sorely miss our friendshi with beautiful vivian. she gave so much to so many. love, ginny and art
Anju D. Jessani
left a message on October 9, 2012:
Vivian was an inspiration to other mediators with her kind, calm demeanor and her lack of ego. She was a pioneer in the field of mediation, and will be missed by all of us.
Maria Yu
left a message on October 8, 2012:
My dear Vivian: Friends since grade school, like sisters in the end, you are one of life's lessons I will never forget. You taught me to be a stronger woman in family, profession and prayer. I cried when you left the first time in Shanghai when life was simple and it was child's play. You were the first to greet me with open arms in 1950 at Union Station, in Washington DC when I went to Catholic University for my post graduate studies. You took care of me like family and navigated my way to living my best life. You were my best friend - 60 years strong. I cried when you left the first time. I cry now, comforted only by the fact that your legacy remains, your inspiration like a whisper in the wind, and you are now in a better place, without pain or worry. Until we meet again dear friend. Greet me with open arms. I will be runnng to feel the embrace. Miss you. With prayers always,
Dr. Mary Edna Davidson
left a message on October 7, 2012:
My prayers and sympathy to the family. She was a dear colleague and friend. I will miss her.
Marjorie, Alden, and Wendy
left a message on October 7, 2012:
We were fortunate to be able to see Vivian the few times over these last several years, whether in the East coast, or here in San Francisco. She has been an inspiration, and she has always been wonderful to be with. We will miss her dearly. Our love and support will always be here for you, Cathy, Joe and your families.
Anna Maria Pittella
left a message on October 7, 2012:
I am so saddened by Vivian's passing. I only saw her from time to time but she always had a kind word. She was a true model of a family mediator. She has taught and mentored scores of students in this important field and helped countless families. She will be misssd.
Adrian Long
left a message on October 7, 2012:
Joe, I'm sorry to learn of the passing of your mother. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Adrian
Barbara Weisman
left a message on October 7, 2012:
I am saddened to learn of Vivian's passing. She was a lovely woman and was truly dedicated to her profession. She will be missed, but remembered.
Risa A. Kleiner
left a message on October 7, 2012:
Vivian was my teacher, my mentor and my friend. Her kind words, quiet determination, sunny disposition and unwaivering respect and concern for others shall continue to be an inspiration to me.
Pat and Don Roberts
left a message on October 6, 2012:
Vivian was a very special person, and I will always remember our visits with her and my cousin, Robert. Rest in peace, Vivian. Blessings to Joe and Cathy and their families.
George CF Chang
left a message on October 6, 2012:
Remember, Vivian, we were supposed to meet a month ago at Maria Yu's, their new residence and you had to call off for family reason. I always treasure our friendship in Shanghai and your beautiful smiles and gentle words linger all the time on my mind. I am going to miss you a lot and will keep you in my prayers. Rest heavenly. George Chang
left a message:
Please accept our deepest condolences for your family's loss.
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Blair Kamin
left a message on October 14, 2012:
Dear Cathy and Joe, I was so sad to hear the news about Vivian from Mom and Dad. Please accept my sincere condolences for your loss. Your mom was such a great lady. Her warmth, beauty, empathy, openness to others, and wit made her a joy to be around. She and Bob were quite a couple. So it was always a pleasure when our family would make the trek through the farm fields of northern Monmouth County and come to your house in Matawan. Those were very special days. I know how much Art and Ginny treasured Bob and Vivian’s friendship. It’s wonderful that their friendship lasted so many years and created such great memories. With love to both of you, Blair Kamin
Nancy Haddock
left a message on October 12, 2012:
Vivian was an inspiration and dear friend to all of us in Rotary for over 10 years. Her calm cool insights into human behavior were invaluable. Her warm smile and eternal optimism will be sorely missed.
Judy Zenowich
left a message on October 11, 2012:
To the family of Mary Vivian Fu Wells, We extend our deepest sympathies to you on the death of Vivian, our friend and colleague. She was a generous supporter of our MSW students and a thoughtful contributor to our programs as an educator and an expert in her field. You are in our thoughts and prayers. ...from the Dean, Faculty, and Staff of the Rutgers School of Social Work
Anahid and Mark Gregg
left a message on October 10, 2012:
We had the privilege of living on the same block as Vivian for several years. She was an incredible woman - intelligent, compassionate, insightful. It was always a pleasure to visit with her. She will be very missed by all who knew her. You have our deepest sympathy.
Lynne Myerson
left a message on October 10, 2012:
We will miss having your mother as our neighbor on June Place. She was a great woman. With sincere sympathy, Paul, Lynne, & Andrew Myerson
Peace of mind is a call away. We’re here when you need us most.
Lee & Bob Crush
left a message on October 9, 2012:
Very sad to hear of the loss of your mother, Joe and hope all your family will always cherish special memories of her. She was quite a remarkable and accomplished woman and we know you all were very proud of her. Again, our condolences and hoping time will ease your pain but know your love will keep her in your heart always.
ginny & arthur kamin
left a message on October 9, 2012:
dear cathy, jeff, joe, val and grandchildren, for 45 years we were honored to be close friends of elegant, intelligent, charming vivian. she enriched our lives so very much. she was always there for us and one could never ask for a more wonderful friend. being with her and bob was always a joy. we will sorely miss our friendshi with beautiful vivian. she gave so much to so many. love, ginny and art
Anju D. Jessani
left a message on October 9, 2012:
Vivian was an inspiration to other mediators with her kind, calm demeanor and her lack of ego. She was a pioneer in the field of mediation, and will be missed by all of us.
Maria Yu
left a message on October 8, 2012:
My dear Vivian: Friends since grade school, like sisters in the end, you are one of life's lessons I will never forget. You taught me to be a stronger woman in family, profession and prayer. I cried when you left the first time in Shanghai when life was simple and it was child's play. You were the first to greet me with open arms in 1950 at Union Station, in Washington DC when I went to Catholic University for my post graduate studies. You took care of me like family and navigated my way to living my best life. You were my best friend - 60 years strong. I cried when you left the first time. I cry now, comforted only by the fact that your legacy remains, your inspiration like a whisper in the wind, and you are now in a better place, without pain or worry. Until we meet again dear friend. Greet me with open arms. I will be runnng to feel the embrace. Miss you. With prayers always,
Dr. Mary Edna Davidson
left a message on October 7, 2012:
My prayers and sympathy to the family. She was a dear colleague and friend. I will miss her.
Marjorie, Alden, and Wendy
left a message on October 7, 2012:
We were fortunate to be able to see Vivian the few times over these last several years, whether in the East coast, or here in San Francisco. She has been an inspiration, and she has always been wonderful to be with. We will miss her dearly. Our love and support will always be here for you, Cathy, Joe and your families.
Anna Maria Pittella
left a message on October 7, 2012:
I am so saddened by Vivian's passing. I only saw her from time to time but she always had a kind word. She was a true model of a family mediator. She has taught and mentored scores of students in this important field and helped countless families. She will be misssd.
Adrian Long
left a message on October 7, 2012:
Joe, I'm sorry to learn of the passing of your mother. You and your family are in our thoughts and prayers. Adrian
Barbara Weisman
left a message on October 7, 2012:
I am saddened to learn of Vivian's passing. She was a lovely woman and was truly dedicated to her profession. She will be missed, but remembered.
Risa A. Kleiner
left a message on October 7, 2012:
Vivian was my teacher, my mentor and my friend. Her kind words, quiet determination, sunny disposition and unwaivering respect and concern for others shall continue to be an inspiration to me.
Pat and Don Roberts
left a message on October 6, 2012:
Vivian was a very special person, and I will always remember our visits with her and my cousin, Robert. Rest in peace, Vivian. Blessings to Joe and Cathy and their families.
George CF Chang
left a message on October 6, 2012:
Remember, Vivian, we were supposed to meet a month ago at Maria Yu's, their new residence and you had to call off for family reason. I always treasure our friendship in Shanghai and your beautiful smiles and gentle words linger all the time on my mind. I am going to miss you a lot and will keep you in my prayers. Rest heavenly. George Chang
left a message:
Please accept our deepest condolences for your family's loss.
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